A Mother’s Hope on Mother’s Day

A Mother’s Hope on Mother’s Day

Baby Hope was examined by LWR’s surgical team in the early part of 2019. Hope’s parents sat by with much heartache and sorrow. Sharmila, her mother, would not look at anyone in the eyes. The tears seemed to be never-ending from her eyes. We never heard her speak that first day.

Hope had successful bilateral cleft lip repair at the end of February. Hope’s mother still sat silently. She would not stay in the room, when others came to visit her baby.

I met her late April for the first time in Bangalore. She pulled up her chair, sat with us, and began to speak. Santhosh was astonished. “This is the first time I have seen you sit and speak to anyone. What has happened?”

She explained the torment and guilt and anxiety that had plagued her since baby Hope was born. She could not bear to see the faces of people who came to visit baby Hope. She could not talk. She would open her mouth, but no words would come. She would weep incessantly. Anxiety plagued her. She told us that she constantly felt overwhelmed and unable to speak. She did not want to unload on her husband, feeling that he did not need any more burdens. No one could help her.

But when Santhosh shared the passage of John 9 with her, the feelings of guilt began to lift.  In that passage, Jesus answers a question that troubles parents even today.  The disciples asked Jesus, “Who sinned, that this man was born blind?” pointing at the blind man on the side of the road.  Jesus response is beautiful.  “It was not the sin of his parents, or of this man,  he was born this way so that God’s glory would be manifest.”  The passage that had ministered to Santhosh and myself 19 years ago,  still burns in us.  It is a message of hope and comfort to the many parents we have ministered to over the years.  

Sharmila told us that after her child’s surgery, she began to transform.  Instead of tears, she carried the oil of gladness.  Instead of wearing heaviness, she wore a garment of praise.  The message of John 9 had literally given her HOPE.   

She is a beautiful mother of courage, strength and resilience.  We honor all our mother’s today for their boldness, their heart to persevere in spite of the heartaches.  Our mothers all give us hope to move forward!  

Happy Mother’s Day! 

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A Table in the Wilderness

A Table in the Wilderness

Thank goodness for February!  No, I’m not excited about Valentine’s Day, though chocolate is one of my best friends.  I’m just ready to move on ahead and forget the past few months.

A question from the writer of Psalm 78, “Can God furnish a table in the wilderness?” (Psalm 78:19) was echoing in our home over the last several months.  

I mean, really. When you are scraping the bottom of the barrel, in a dry and desperate place of sorrow and pain, can God furnish a table?

Philip had a successful eyelid surgery, and his recovery after anesthesia was smooth. However, we still do not have a prosthetic eye or ear. There is talk by our surgeon of possibly having cosmetic surgery to help and support his cheek musculature that would in turn support the lower eyelid. WHY? Why can’t his newly repaired eyelid hold his prosthetic eye? Or better yet, we have prayed for a real eye and a real ear. Why does he need to struggle through this?

The Zimbabwe medical mission planned for February had to be postponed due to the civil unrest and other issues the country is facing at this moment. Patients who were ready for secondary surgery after last year’s primary surgery waited for this date. WHY? Why is there a delay on this?

Multiple other issues related to family, to business, to staffing and organization, and in this wilderness experience, can a table be furnished by God?

The answer came in Psalm 23, “You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies.  You anoint my head with oil, my cup runs over.  Surely goodness and mercy will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.”

This isn’t an easy walk through life, my friends.  We were never promised that.   However, we were promised that “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, because You are with me…

Be encouraged, and keep pressing forward. Even in this dreary and lonely time, you have One who will never leave your side. People will fail you, but He will NEVER fail you!

Blessings,

Susan

A Look Back and Celebration of 10 years

A Look Back and Celebration of 10 years

It was on Friday, August 8, 2008 that Santhosh, Philip and I made our way to the Children’s Hospital for Philip’s simple flap repair. This would be a 45-minute same day surgery, and we would be discharged home later in the afternoon.But in that span of…

Craniofacial Acceptance Month

September is Craniofacial Acceptance Month, and I asked Philip what that meant to him. His response was that everyone deserves respect and dignity, no matter what they look like. It isn’t easy to walk around with a facial birth defect, with scars on…

Inaugural Mission to KENYA!

As I was searching for the final numbers and data collected from the recent mission to Kenya, I could not find any updates on the website. It has been such a busy few weeks since we returned from Kenya, that I did not even blog about it!Thirty-one members made…

Milestones and Memories

LWR had a “celebration” tour of sorts in celebrating the milestone 10 years in Chattanooga, TN and also in Elmont, New York! We could be coming to a city near you, keep your eyes peeled!One of the featured young men during these events was young Harsha…

Promises Made, Promises Kept

The tears have been endless for the past month. I can’t believe it has been one month, since my baby boy passed from this world. I miss him so much. No parent should bury their child. It should always be the children who pick the coffin and make the funeral…

Love Reading about Christmas Miracles!!

Love Reading about Christmas Miracles!! Don’t you LOVE Christmas miracles? I’ll tell you one about a poor husband and wife who lived outside of Bangalore, India in a rural village. They had a happy dream of a new baby to be added to their family….

Love Reading about Christmas Miracles!!

Love Reading about Christmas Miracles!!

Love Reading about Christmas Miracles!!

Don’t you LOVE Christmas miracles?

I’ll tell you one about a poor husband and wife who lived outside of Bangalore, India in a rural village. They had a happy dream of a new baby to be added to their family. All their goals, all their wishes were placed in the future of this new life.

Fast forward nine months, and baby boy Rehan was born! But the mother wept when she saw Rehan for the first time. His lip was separated in two sections of his mouth. He was born with a bilateral cleft lip.

The father wept when he saw Rehan. And he returned to his hard labor job to earn his $2 a day. The grandmother also tried to pitch in by earning from some street vending job. It would be many years before this family would be able to afford a cleft repair for baby Rehan. He would have to live in humiliation, grow up ostracized from his peers.

When Rehan turned 8 months old this December, his parents learned about a free medical camp for those born with facial birth defects. They met the Love Without Reason team of professionals, and soon Rehan was scheduled for surgery. The 500th surgery for Love Without Reason!

The journey to this Christmas miracle has been revolving in my mind for days.  In December 2007, Santhosh and I had no idea of the work involved in forming and running a nonprofit.  We spent the next 5 years researching, studying, learning from mistakes, and working hard.  In 2012,  the first surgeries began in Bangalore.  In  April 2014, I resigned my job as a nurse practitioner to work full-time for LWR, (meaning un-paid at this time)!  I wondered many times if I had truly heard from God, or if I had imagined everything.  My answer came in the summer of 2014, when LWR had not yet celebrated the 100th patient.  I cuddled a one-month old baby boy born with a cleft lip.  The young mother, with tears in her eyes, asked me, “Why did this happen to me?   What did I do wrong?”   And in my spirit, I heard God say, “You asked me the same questions when Philip was born.  Now, you know what to say to wipe her tears away.”

And now, thanks to our donors, supporters and prayer warriors alike, the LWR team will continue to wipe the tears of parents of children like Rehan. Giving. Loving. When they could never possibly pay you back. It’s one of many 2018 Christmas Miracles!!

Click below to hear Rehan’s story! #500thStory

https://www.facebook.com/LoveWithoutReasonUSA/videos/377849873019558

Do His Promises Still Stand?

Do His Promises Still Stand?

I watched Philip roll his backpack across the parking lot, after I dropped him off at the McCallie School. By the time I curved around the parking lot, I could see him carrying his backpack up the flight of stairs to get out of the parking lot and up to the buildings for his first class. I knew that he would have to climb a few more flights of stairs in the building to get to his classroom, and he would do that throughout the day in various buildings on campus. I remember that first day of high school in August 2015 as if it was yesterday. My prayer that day was for Philip’s spine and diagnosis of scoliosis.

“God, I’m just asking for this one thing.  He has to spend four years on this campus, then college.  He can’t just roll a backpack everywhere.  He needs a spine that is straight and strong, a body that is fit so that he can carry things and walk without hindrance.  Help him, heal him today.”

The days, months and years have passed and now he’s in his senior year at the school, and still with the same struggle.  I mean, what have I missed?  What’s wrong with my prayer?  God, do you hear me?

And in this season, I know and I put my trust in God’s Word, because frankly, there’s no other place that will hold me.  Yet, I’m still waiting.  And I don’t understand.  Does His promise still stand?  I teach my kids to study, to meditate and memorize the Word, but I’m still waiting for a Promise to be fulfilled.  Everything I see makes me think that I’m circling the drain and that it will all end, but Does His Promise Still Stand?  

Aaaagh, it’s so easy to say these words, but when everything around you and everything you experience with your senses tells you a hard and difficult story, I pray that you and me will cling to the One whose Words will never fail.  He cannot fail in His Word.  Isaiah 55 tells us that His Word is like the rain that comes down from the heavens and does not return to the heavens, but waters the earth, makes it bring forth, bud, give nourishment.  His WORD is just like that!!  It will accomplish what it is called to accomplish, and not simply return void back to the Father.  His Promise Still Stands.  

And as for Philip, I know the Promises spoken over him will come to pass.  I can understand what I see in the physical, but what I see in the spiritual, and what I know from His Word, that the things that are impossible for man, is possible with My God– this is what I hold to, and renew my mind with daily.

A friend had sent this link to me weeks ago about the story behind the song “Do It Again.” Watch and enjoy! Remember His Promise Still Stands!

With love and prayers,

Susan

McCallie School joins with Love Without Reason

During the parent teacher meetings of Philip’s freshman year at the McCallie School, we were told that there would be an opportunity for the upcoming seniors to lead an international mission trip. Even though we kept this in our hearts, we did not know if Philip would get the approval to lead a group of students on a trip to India. During his junior year, interest developed, and a proposal was submitted. An expensive proposal! International airline tickets during the summer months are expensive, not to mention tourist sights and resorts! However, the proposal was accepted, and a total of 8 men signed up for the trip!

The culture, the smells, the sounds and the images will forever be imprinted in the minds of these young men. One young man made a recording in front of the Taj Mahal, “Mom, I’ve seen one of the 7 Wonders of the World, and I did it before you did!!” As they looked over the slums from the Project Butterfly center in Mumbai where women sold into trafficking learn basic education skills and the sewing trade, one young man shared, “This place is like a diamond in the rough.” So much ugliness and horror on the outside, but as you meet and see the children and young people living here, you see the beauty of those created in the image of God.

The young men will end their tour with a visit in the city of Bangalore. Here, they will have the opportunity to attend an LWR medical camp. They will meet patients who are recovering from their successful surgery. They will also see the process of screening for new patients who come to the medical camp.

There is much work to be done. There is a place for everyone to be involved in turning #BeautyFromTheAshes!! Perhaps you can give financially to support a surgery for a child, perhaps you can donate your printing services for an LWR newsletter. Whatever it is, get involved and make the impact that will change the future of a child forever!! www.crowdrise.com/cleftsurgeries www.lovewithoutreason.net

Because every child matters!

Susan

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Celebrating 10 years…the party continues

In February 2017, Santhosh and I spent an hour in Nairobi, Kenya in transit to Zimbabwe. Something in our suitcase alerted the security officials. As they were examining our bags, they asked us why we were in Africa.

After explaining the mission of LWR, one of the young men told us that the Northern regions of Kenya have no hospital facilities. He knows there are children born with facial birth defects, many in that area who will never get any help.

We left with heavy hearts and the burden that Mr Bill and Mr Frank, the security officials, left us. We prayed for the day to enter Kenya.

On the flight to Zimbabwe in June 2017, we met Apostle Peter Chacha from Kenya. The conversations began, the initial meetings started and in March 2018 the hospital finalized the approval for LWR to enter Kenya for the first mission!!

All glory to God, He has done great things! A team of approximately 30 individuals will gather from India, USA, Zimbabwe to work to transform faces and lives in Kenya.

Will you be a part of this effort? We are counting on you to reach throughout Africa and India! Let’s continue the work…

Until the World is Cleft-Free!!!

Susan

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Happy 10th birthday, Love Without Reason

Happy 10th birthday, Love Without Reason

i want to give you a quick look back and share a look ahead to the next 10 years!

Looking Back

The vision of LWR is to Love, Transform, and Reintegrate the vulnerable and the victims of human trafficking. During our early years, we realized that children with untreated cleft lip/palate were at risk for being sold into human trafficking networks such as child labor, child beggary, sex trade, and organ harvesting.

To attain our mission of providing cost-free, high quality craniofacial surgeries to children and adults in developing countries, we began work in South India. Our team traveled into the rural areas of India to find the “hidden” children born with clefts, and offer them surgeries. The super-specialty hospitals such as People Tree Hospital, HCG Group of Hospitals, Rainbow Hospital, Aster CMI partnered with us to impact these young lives. Our success in India enabled us to broaden our horizons into Zimbabwe, Africa. In June 2017, LWR completed 58 surgeries in six days, changing the faces of 58 individuals!!

With Project Butterfly, LWR pursues the victims of human trafficking in Mumbai. The red-light district in the suburbs of Mumbai has more than a thousand sex slaves. The Love Without Reason Center is a place of refuge for these women and their children. Over the past two years, the center has helped scores of women learn new skills and helped liberate some women. The work continues in dangerous environments filled with oppression and darkness. However, the message of Love Without Reason will be shared to these women, who once believed there was no hope for them.

Looking Ahead

As we look to the next ten years, the doors to India and the nations within Africa are opening for LWR.  We are called to:

  • Penetrate the darkest interiors of Africa and India with hope, health, awareness and education
  • Reach vulnerable children born with facial birth defects, and provide life-altering surgery
  • Break the shackles of slavery and trafficking
  • Plan out international disaster relief response

Friends, as 2017 comes to an end, we want to offer you the opportunity to invest into good ground. We encourage you to sow into this work that sets captives free, liberates the oppressed, and shares good news with the poor!! Thank you for believing in this vision!

Now, as far as gifts for Love Without Reason, how about rebranding and a stunning website. Check out Love Without Reason’s new website at www.lovewithoutreason.org and let us know what you think. 

Our thanks to myheartcreative, led by the amazing team of Vinod and Amy Samuel and Kelcy Thompson for their creativity, hard work and patience (with the Mathews family). There is no better way to inaugurate the 10th anniversary year!  We are so thankful for this team and their dedication to serve. For more information on their work, please visit www.myheartcreative.com. And tell them that Love Without Reason sent you! Feel free to comment with your prayers and wishes for LWR! 

Kenya on our heart

Kenya on our heart

Santhosh and I were blessed to attend this year’s Global Missions Health Conference in Kentucky. While there we connected with other organizations, relief agencies, ministries working to expand the Kingdom by their service. We met people from Kenya and listened to their stories. We have always been told that the northern region of Kenya has little to no health care services at all. We could not imagine what was happening to the children born there with craniofacial differences. What has become of their lives?

One young woman, Michelle, from Hope Matters International shared her story. As a nurse practitioner, when she first arrived in Kenya, she was placed in the labor and delivery room to assist the physicians and midwives. Because of the lack of resources and finances, the clinics were ill-equipped to deal at full force with a new life entering the world. For those newborns who were not breathing on their own, and who remained blue due to lack of oxygen, Michelle was instructed to turn from the baby and focus her strength on saving the mother. The baby would not survive, and there was no incubator or respirator to help in any case.

Our hearts were broken to hear this. I remember immediately after Philip’s delivery, he was suctioned and his breathing reflex kicked in. If a baby like him was born in Kenya, he would drown in his own secretions.

Friends, we cannot pretend ignorance on the need any longer. How many children like Philip are being born every year in Kenya, and never open their eyes to the light? Per the Healthy Newborn Network, 39% of Kenyan newborns die of congenital abnormalities and pre term complications.

Santhosh was able to visit Nairobi, Kenya in November to meet leaders and see the hospitals. God willing in 2018, LWR will return and join the efforts to bring the newborn mortality rate down in Kenya. You may not be able to come to Kenya yourself, but you can send LWR. Partner with us!

We must continue the work, Until The World Is Cleft-Free!

Susan

My “FORCED” restful Birthday Week!

My “FORCED” restful Birthday Week!

If you have seen any Love Without Reason social media in October, you would know that on October 21, there was a fundraiser for LWR called the SHINE fashion show! For an event of any magnitude to be successful, you need a mass of volunteers, planners, organizers, workers, idea-producers and etc!! This event was no exception…

The challenge was coordinating a mission trip to Zimbabwe, planning a surgery for Philip in India in July, and returning to school and all extracurricular activities while preparing for an October event. By the time October 21 midnight arrived, I was exhausted!! But then I was also frightened. I was the last person to handle both Santhosh and my phones at the event. And I believed I had packed them in a box, and sent it with one of our friends to their home. Unfortunately, the phones were nowhere to be found!

Sunday and Monday were a little frantic in trying to find our phones. And at the same time, there was peace. No calls to answer. No emails to respond to. No complaints to acknowledge (at the moment). Plus Santhosh’s reassurance to me that the phones would be found at the ChooChoo itself. Ahhhhhhhhhhhh, peace.

The amazing staff at the venue for SHINE, a historic hotel called the Chattanooga ChooChoo, found the bag that had our phones in it, and then began the calls. Monday evening we also received entrance in the RUACH 2017 conference at Redemption to the Nations Church. One of our close friends from NYC covered our entry tickets to the conference and demanded that we attend the events Monday to Wednesday evening. Speakers came from around the country, just to pour into the attendants. The worship, music, prayers and Word was like a cool drink of water after a marathon in the hot sun!

Friday we were finally able to take advantage of the “Married and Still Loving it” prize package that we won in February 2016. The prize was a weekend getaway to the Whitestone Country Inn in Kingston, Tennessee! As we drove the scenic highway and cut through the colorful mountains, it truly seemed like the Lord was wrapping His arms around us. “Come apart, and rest for awhile,” He once said to His disciples.

Well, we did just that. We drove through the retreat area, walked, prayed, shared and enjoyed our time together. It has been quite awhile since we took time for ourselves, without a coordinating mission trip, or event related to the ministry. God knew we needed to be at a place that was known as a “sanctuary for the soul.” It was as if the chapped skin of our souls received balm there at the Whitestone Inn. The service, the staff, the smiles all brought rest to our wearied bodies.

As I look back on that week, I can’t help but think how the Lord orchestrated this time. People on my planning team told me that God Himself hid our phones from our eyes for those 2 days. God Himself sent us to a conference for refreshing. God Himself arranged a weekend getaway to renew ourselves for the journey ahead.

Nothing is too small for God. Even before we think our thoughts, Psalms 139 says He knows my thoughts. My physical needs are on His radar. Though it seems so insignificant a request, for my God, he arranges everything beautifully in His perfect time.

And now, ONWARD for the journey ahead! 🙂

Susan

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